My Dear Lover,
Now I want to share with you the facts, and also my advice about something that you probably ask yourself Lots of times:
“Should” I Date Others During My Long Distance Relationship?
Well, first I will give you some facts (scientific facts!) And then I will present my personal advice to you.
Dr. Gregory Guldner his the leading authority on long distance
Relationships and the author of the most comprehensive study of
long distance relationships ever completed,”Long Distance Relationships: The Complete Guide”.
He’s is a graduate of Stanford Medical School and Purdue University’s Clinical Psychology Program and he combines his
scientific experience,interviews with hundreds of couples in
long distance relationships and his own personal experience into this comprehensive book.
Ok, now you know who Dr. Gregory Guldner is, I will give you the scientific facts about Dating Others During an LDR.
Dr. Gregory Guldner made 2 studies, and here are his results:
6-month longitudinal study:
– 30% of couples that dated others broke up
– 27 percent of couples that did not broke up
– 70 percent of couples who didn’t talk about this issue broke up.
Cross sectional study:
– 15% of those who outdated others survived LDR
– 48 percent of those who did not survived LDR
Humm, to much scientific! you will say.
Ok, let me explain to you the meaning of those numbers:
In the first study: the 6-month longitudinal study we can see that:
The Long Distance Relationship couples who outdated others, in a
Period of 6 months, 30 percent of them broke up.
From the Long Distance Relationship couples that did not obsolete
Others, in a span of 6 months, 27 percent of them awakened.
And notice this, 70% of couples who did not discuss this issue
In the next study:”Cross sectional study”, the relationships
That at one point were long distance (like the one you and me are
living now), but now are reunited (the thing you and me want
more) as intended, we can observe that:
Just 15% of those who outdated others survived LDR and 48% of those
Who didn’t survived LDR.
Time, like six months, it will not make to much difference for the
achievement of the Long Distance Relationship, to others.
What makes the difference here is not being clear and honest
using the Long Distance Partner, 70 percent of couples who didn’t talk about this issue broke up!
Now, for long periods of time, dating others is very very danger
For the success of your Long Distance Relationship! Just 15% survived LDR!
However, what makes you”want” to date others while you are in your Long Distance Relationship?
Is the lake of sex? Is because you like to feel close with another person?
What You Have to do is to know how to”make love” at phone
Or to write erotic letters, or send sensual videos or pictures to
Now about my own experience?
Do you think that because I am at a Long Distance Relationship I do not feel sexually attracted by others?
But do I consider the idea of me dating others while I’m within my
Long Distance Relationships?
No, no, no. Let me tell you something. At my job There’s a man,
I don’t know to describe this, but between him and me there’s such a powerful sexual chemistry.
Also a strong sexual chemistry, but I think if I made sex with that guy from my job, I guess I would be something much stronger than I have with my Long Distance Partner.
But do you think will ever make sex with that man from my job?
First I really adore with all my heart my Long Distance Partner, he is without any doubt the”true love” of my life. And a relationship is much more than sex, and you also now that very well!
Second I don’t feel that I have sexual insatisfaction in my Long
I do use what I”learn” from several resources which you can see in internet, and that it is possible to see in my website.
Now, with this, I’m not saying that I agree or disagree with the
Ones which make the choice of Dating Others while they’re in a Long Distance Relationship.
It is your choice, and today, you have also the numbers of the scientific study of Dr. Gregory Guldner and also my advice and my expertise.
Don’t let it tear you apart!
My name is Maria Madeira, and like you, I am in a Long Distance Relationship since 2003. Since then, I’ve been in all phases of Long Distance Relationship.
What you’re feeling! Let me help YOU!